If you think moving is hard for you, imagine what it’s like for your children. Moving is going to feel like an Earth-shattering, life-changing event to your children especially if they haven’t experienced it before. To ease the transition for them, you should always aim to plan your relocation at a time that is least disruptive to their routine which is usually the holidays. But here at U. Santini Moving & Storage Brooklyn, we understand that that’s not always possible. So for those times when you can’t avoid moving during the school year, we have prepared a handy guide to help you out.
Discuss moving during the school year with your family
Even if you aren’t used to holding family meetings, sitting down together and discussing your upcoming move together is a good idea. Everyone in the family should be on the same page long before you’re packing up, renting a safe moving truck in Brooklyn and driving off for the last time.
For one, a family meeting is a great way to keep your children in the loop and make them feel more like a part of the process. These discussions also give everyone an opportunity to ask any questions or settle any concerns they may have. Most importantly, informing your children of the move well in advance will give them more time to process. Initial reluctance and resistance to the move are perfectly normal. Children often feel sad and even angry that they have to leave behind their home, school, and friends. You should give them ample time and support to deal with these feelings before moving.
Research and visit schools in the area
Choosing the right neighborhood is only one step when moving during the school year. You will also need to choose the right school for your children. Be sure to do a bit of research into the schools near your new home before deciding which one fits your children’s needs. Visit the schools yourself to see first-hand what they offer. If possible, bring your children along. After all, they are the ones who will be spending the most time there.
Prepare all your paperwork
Moving during the school year will involve a bit of paperwork. Start by notifying your children’s current school in time that they should transfer all official transcripts and records to the new school. This includes report cards, standardizing test scores and information about extracurricular activities. You may also ask the teachers to include your children’s writing samples, any notes they may have about their previous work, recommendations for what can be improved in the future, and other general observations. This will give the teachers at the new school an insight into your children’s education thus far and help them better prepare to bring them up to speed with their new class.
If your children have any chronic illnesses, allergies or other medical conditions, the new school must be informed in time. Some schools also require proof of immunization before allowing children to attend classes. All in all, you should also prepare your children’s medical records too.
Help your children say goodbye
Saying goodbye is one of the hardest things about moving. For children, who often don’t fully understand why they have to move at all, it can be even harder. And when they’re moving during the school year, they don’t even get the closure of finishing the grade in a familiar environment. You can help deal with this by throwing a going away party for your children, their friends, classmates, and favorite teachers. This is a way to celebrate the good times while also marking the end of an era.
Get informed about the school
Try to learn more about the school before your children start there. Is the curriculum the same as at your children’s old school? Do they use the same textbooks at the new school? What extracurricular activities are available? These are just some of the questions you and your children may be wondering about. Normally, this kind of information comes up at the beginning of the year. If you’re moving during the school year, however, you may have to seek it out yourself.
The best way to do this is to talk to your children’s future teachers, school administrators, and guidance counselors. Schedule a meeting with them to ensure they have a few moments when they can dedicate themselves to you. Then, take the opportunity to introduce yourself and talk a bit about your children as well as ask any questions you may have. This will prepare everyone involved in dealing with the upcoming changes.
Perhaps the most qualified people to tell you about the good, the bad and the ugly of the new school are the parents of children already attending it. So if you have an opportunity to meet them, take it. Not only will you learn more about the school, but you will also start making new friends yourself.
Prepare your children for a new start
Your children will probably be nervous for their first day at the new school. You can help ease their anxiety by preparing them well for what to expect. Take them to see the school before their first day and introduce them to new teachers and even classmates. This will take away one of the major stressors of starting school which is meeting new people.
Be sure to also prepare them for what they will be doing at school. If there are any school supplies or textbooks you will need to buy, do so in time. Present them with options for extracurriculars and encourage them to join anything that interests them. This might make the school more appealing and will help them make friends. And the more your children know about the school beforehand, the less nervous they will be on their first day.
Deal with homesickness and nostalgia
Homesickness is a perfectly natural part of moving, Both you and your children are likely to experience it to some degree and at some point. You should learn how to deal with these emotions and teach your children to do the same. Keep some things that remind them of the old home, bring with you treasured family traditions and try to focus on the positives of your new home. And always lead by example! If your children see you making new friends and enjoying your new life, they are more likely to do the same.